Update, bought asus motherboard z07a, unlike the gigabyte the z97A has a crappy onboard sound so had to buy that too
Anyway screwed again, the asus z97A doesn't support the Kingston KVR16N11/8 8gb sticsk in 32gb mode

So lost a lot of money & time, jakes on me

I only post to warn you guy the real problem in my case was kingston poor compatibility not motherboards.