Is the fan noise the issue? - You could probably tune it with Smart Fan in the UEFI, or use a fan control program...
4.4ghz is the max boost for the 3700x, so the 4.3 to 4.4 you're seeing seems within spec.
Setting a negative offset on the vcore will likely lead to clock-stretching, which probably isn't desirable.
I'm guessing you actually want the highest performance the 3700x can give, when you're actually pushing it...
The problem is, there's no way for a typical program to say to the CPU "don't bother boosting, I've only got a little bit of work for you".
If you're in linux, there are different CPU schedulers that are more / less aggressive than the default (and control how quickly the CPU boosts up / down).
If you're in windows, there might be a lot of background tasks / services contributing to the issue.
You could set a lower temperature / PPT / EDC target for the CPU and / or watch the voltage and power draw in Ryzen Master.
Ultimately, isn't this how the platform is designed? Boost whenever there is work to do, and back off when there's no work?
Apologies if I've missed your point... But maybe you could describe what "normal" is that you are seeking?