Ok, I unplugged the power, toggled the on/off switch on the p/s, took the battery out for 20 mins, shorted the clear cmos pins, put the battery back in, shorted the pins again just because, hooked it back up and turned the computer on and went into the BIOS. I loaded optimized settings and hit F10 to save settings. The computer did the same thing...after the POST, and the POST does complete (at least visually), and then the screen goes blank like it wants to load the OS and a cursor (underline) pops up in the top left corner and just blinks and nothing happens. I hit the reset switch on the case and the computer POSTs, screen goes blank and the hand off to the OS works and Win 7 comes up clean, just like it is supposed to and everything runs fine and is stable. I hit restart from within Windows and the system does a restart and it POSTs, goes to blank screen with underline cursor blinking and does nothing...I hit reset button on the case and all boots fine.....
The default settings that came up from optimized had the memory running at 1066 (vice 1600), with timings of 7-7-7-16 (vice 8-8-8-24) and the memory voltage was 1.1'ish, can't remember the exact value (instead of the recommended 1.65V)
In the meantime, since that didn't work, I set it back to the values I had it before, which is setting the memory clock multiplier to x12 (instead of auto) which lets it go to 1600 Mhz, then I go to expert mode so I can manually change the timing, and I changed Channel A (which is what I am using) to 8-8-8-24 (and I set Channel B to those same values even though I do not have any memory in Channel B, just to be safe), and I set the memory voltage manually to 1.64V, and I put in the advanced memory setting area, I have performance enhance set to standard and DRAM timing is Expert so I can change the timings to the 8-8-8-24.