That's some pretty sweet RAM you got there. What's the stock voltage and timings like?
Don't worry about RAM heatsinks being warm. As long as they're not hot to the touch you're fine. Remember that DDR2 runs at much higher volts while using similar heatsinks.
One thing, as you keep writing about NB voltage, you do know that it doesn't really matter much anymore for RAM? I mean, it's a kind of last resort thing to tweak if you can't get your RAM stable. Nowadays it's the CPU-NB that's managing RAM so it's CPU-NB voltage that you may eventually want to increase.
Actually, it'd seem that, on Phenom II, CPU-NB overclock can boost performance about as much ( if not more ) as RAM overclocking. Some even claim that it should be overclocked along with the CPU to improve CPU stability. What I have yet to figure out is whether it's better to overclock it to the limit or keep it in relation to CPU frequency. Info out there is sometimes contradictory about this. Anyway, myself I'm keeping it at a comfortable value of 2,65 Ghz @ 1.25v ( stock is 1.20v ). From what I heard, it's reasonable to not exceed 1.35v but I've seen people go about as far as 1.45v.