Can you please test with 8GB only and see if you still have the issue, thanks!
Just a tip, with 8-16GB of memory, you may need to increase QPI/Vtt 1.14-1.2+, and System Agent may need 1.14-1.24
If this kit was not sold as a whole (16GB kit), then XMP should not be used, as the XMP would be for 8GB kit if you bought two 8GB kits
Lowering memory timings, like you have in Red above, are not going to help. If you wanted to see if any of that would help you need to raise them not lower. You also need to verify the actual applied auto setting in windows with AIDA64 (In Motherboard, chipset, then NB) as the settings you see in the BIOS on the left are not what is actually used 99.9% of the time. So check actual value in windows for auto, then raise above that in the BIOS if you want to try other settings.
Higher tRFC may help (140-160), and higher tRC might help too, as well as command rate 2T. Write Latency 8-9 should be fine. I think Auto will probably be fine, but you can raise these mentioned to see if it helps, if not then adjust the voltages mentioned above as well as a little bump in ram voltage, and then if you get it working you can try to lower memory timings back down.